Navigating the Waves of Grief

Written by Arami Kerkian

As I near the nine-year anniversary of my father’s death, I felt it appropriate to write about grief. Grief is a universal human experience, yet it’s also intensely personal and unique to each individual who walks through its terrain. In the days and weeks following my dad’s death, I found myself drifting in a sea of emotions, consumed by waves of sadness, anger, and disbelief.

Grief, I soon discovered, is not a linear process with a clear beginning and end; rather, it’s a journey characterized by ebbs and flows, highs and lows. Some days, the pain was so raw and all-consuming that it felt like I was drowning. Other days, it was more subtle, like a dull ache that lingered in the background.

One of the most important things we can do when navigating the landscape of grief is to give ourselves permission to feel whatever emotions arise. Whether it’s sadness, anger, guilt, or even joy, each emotion is valid and deserving of acknowledgment and acceptance. By allowing ourselves to experience our emotions fully, we create space for healing and growth to occur.

Amidst the heartache, I found strength in the support of friends and family, who stood by my side through the darkest days. And I found hope in the knowledge that my dad’s spirit would live on in the hearts of those who loved him, forever immortalized in the legacy he left behind.

To anyone who finds themselves navigating the stormy waters of grief, I offer this: You are not alone. Your pain is valid, your emotions are valid, and your journey is valid. Lean into the support of loved ones, seek out professional help if you need it, and above all, be gentle with yourself. In time, the waves of grief will ebb, and you will emerge stronger and more resilient than you ever thought possible.